Well, that's certainly consistent with what you've been saying. Could you send me the raw files? jgoldstone (that first letter is a lower-case J) blah arri.com, replace the blah with an '@' and you're there.
On my side, last Friday I did two grabs on a Studio next door. Here are some ways of processing them. The ones that are slightly out of focus are the shots with the ND (room light + a very small TrueBlue meant that I was very open).
Resolve 8.2.2 (no ND in path):

Resolve 8.2.2 (ND in path, aperture opened way up):

ARC 2.3.0b20 (no ND in path):

ARC 2.3.0b20 (ND in path, aperture opened way up):

So the residual difference in Resolve 8 seems comparable to that of the ARC.
We just installed Resolve 9 next door and I will try and experiment with it tomorrow. If you can email me the .ari files corresponding to the images you are showing above, I will try them out here, compare your metadata with my metadata, etc. And I will reply to your email enclosing the .ari files that I got from my grab and you can check them out. (I'll send you the .ari attachments in two separate messages to try and stay below your mail system's attachment limit.)
Many thanks--
--joseph